There comes a time in your life when you finally realize everything you once believed in might not mean the same as it once did. You have finally stopped long enough to listen to that voice in your head, the one that is screaming that this isn’t and can’t be my reality. You throw that internal tantrum, cry your eyes out, take a deep breath and start anew.
You define your new reality.
You have finally realized that YOU are the only one in control of your destiny. You are the one that must decide where your path will lead.
You have learned the importance of loving unconditionally and to accept the imperfections everyone has.
You realize that happy endings aren’t served on a silver platter, fairy tales are just tales and “happily ever after” takes a lot of work.
You admit that you aren’t perfect and that there are times that you aren’t as amazing as you thought, that it’s ok to visit the dark side and to be a human with warts.
You have learned that people will lie, cheat and do ugly things to you and that you really can rise above them, walk away and put them out of your life.
The light bulb has gone off and you see with clarity that your values and perceptions are not the only truths in the world. Yes, they are important but everyone else is entitled to their own opinions too.
You begin to reassess and define who you are and what you stand for and you find your voice.
You learn that you don’t know everything, you will never know everything, you alone can’t save the world and that you can’t teach a cat to knit. The cross you bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get stoned to death.
You stop trying to control other people and learn to accept that you won’t always agree with their opinion and that doesn’t make you or them wrong. It’s just a difference of opinion.
You finally realize that hard work is going to get you what you want, that just wishing and hoping for it is not going to make it magically appear and that you do appreciate it more when you have earned it yourself.
You learn that negativity is an option that you can do without and that having a positive attitude is healthier, more attractive and a heck of a lot more fun.
You learn that you can only count on yourself and that you are the only one that is going to take care of you. You finally realize that you alone are responsible for your own happiness and that the notion that someone else can make you happy is crap. You can’t be happy with someone until you are happy with yourself. And you can take that one to the bank.
You find a sense of safety and self-reliance when you learn to stand on your own two feet.
You learn that integrity, honor and honesty are necessary for a happy life for without these traits, people will not trust in you and that trust is more important than you ever thought.
And the most important piece of this new reality is finally realizing that you have really grown up. You are responsible for yourself and there is no one else to blame for your unhappiness or shortcomings. On the bright side, you get to do whatever you want to do. Just think your actions through and if it won’t cause harm to you or someone else, go for it!
Have you had that awakening yet? It can happen when you’re 25, 35, 45 or maybe not at all. Hopefully you aren’t one of the unfortunate ones that never have this awakening, never hears that bell that rings relentlessly. They stumble through life, making a mess of their lives and the lives of their loved ones.
Until next time, I hope you hear that bell and answer the call to a better life.
Love and hugs to you,