Stuck in a rut?

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We’ve all been there.  Some deeper than others.  It could be any area of your life.  The housewife that hasn’t changed her hairstyle in 25 years.  The 12-year-old that won’t try new veggies.  The man who still thinks black socks should be worn with sandals.  The couple that has meat loaf every Wednesday and spaghetti on Fridays.  The husband that gives his wife a gift card for every occasion.  Well ladies and gents… it’s time to shake things up.  It’s past time to get off your lazy butts and step out of your comfort zone to find a new one.  Here’s a few suggestions to get you started.

If you haven’t changed your hairstyle in the last two years, make an appointment right now.  I’m serious… right now.  Stop reading and call your hairdresser.  Don’t think, just do.

Rearrange your furniture.  Clean up and get rid of clutter.  Organize.  Switch your hanging pictures around.  Buy new lamp shades.  Paint the walls.  Change the bathroom rugs.  Change it up in little ways to make a big impact.

Clean out your closets and dressers.  Donate any article of clothing, accessories, purses and shoes that you haven’t worn in a year.  Revamp your wardrobe with timeless, classical pieces that you can mix and match.  Buy one or two trendy pieces to add to the mix but don’t spend a lot of money on it if it’s going to be out of style in six months.

Revamp your diet, especially if you do the meatloaf on Wednesday and spaghetti on Friday.  Add one new recipe per week until your diet is healthier and easy to prepare.  Simple and fresh is the goal.  Add one new veggie, meat or fruit to your kid’s plate every other week so the change isn’t too stressful.  Don’t hesitate to resort to bribery to get them to try it.  The result in the long run will cancel out the guilt over the bribery.

Switch chores up with your spouse and kids on a weekly or monthly basis.  Don’t be anal about how it’s done.  It might not be up to your standard but their way might end up being better.  Seriously, don’t you get tired of vacuuming the house every Saturday morning.  Make a habit of a 10 minute run every evening, through the entire house to put the day’s clutter up.  Make everyone that lives there do it too.  After all, aren’t you the boss?

Take charge.  Change it up.  You make the date night decisions.  Tell your spouse what you want for your birthday.  Make your kids responsible for their own stuff.  Decide what you need to change in your household to make things easier and inform the family.  Post it on the fridge.  Stop whining that your family should know what you want, they aren’t mind readers so cut them some slack and tell them.

Listen, really listen.  Still having the same old argument with your teenager?  For once, step out of the parent mode and listen with your long-lost internal teenager.  Try to remember how it felt to alone and scared without your parents listening and understanding you and your problems.  We get so busy with the day-to-day parenting that we DO forget to really listen.  Get out of that rut now and find a new way to relate to your child.  The problems they face in today’s world are so different than our’s were back in the day.  Learn to grow with them.

Try something new.  Learn a new language.  Read a mystery instead of a romance.  Put some rock in the classical or country mix.  Research a new hobby.  Volunteer at a women’s shelterFind a new way route to work.  Buy groceries in bulk.  Change up your workout.

Take a dare.  Talk to a close friend and find out the one thing they would change about you.  If it’s a good friend that knows you well, you should be able to trust their advice so jump out of the rut and see if the change is good.  You never can tell but it might be a life changing event.

Do something unexpected for your spouse.  Has your wife always wanted to take couple’s dance lessons?  Do it.  I’m not saying you have to make a career out of it but try a few lessons.  Think of how impressed your wife will be and the brownie points you earn will go a long way towards erasing the embarrassment you might feel about dancing in public.  Who knows, you might end up having a great time.  It’s all about giving instead of just taking or not taking any action to begin with.  Ladies, what about a few golf lessons or going to a football game?  Don’t you think it’s time to really start something new and recapture some of the “falling in love” excitement you once had?

Remember the old vinyl records that would get stuck in a groove and the lyrics would play over and over until you moved the needle?  Does your life resemble that old record?  The same old thing day after day?  Take a good deep look at your life and move the needle.  You only get one play at this thing called life so don’t waste it stuck in a rut.  Make an effort to learn one new thing a day.  You know how stagnant water will start to stink after a while?  Same principle, stir it up so your life doesn’t start to stink!

Let me know what rut you’re in and what you’re going to do to get out of it.

So until the next time I talk to you…

I’m walking out to the garage to find that shovel and start digging my way out.  And I’ll try not to throw any dirt your way.

Much love,


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5 Responses to Stuck in a rut?

  1. evocative embrace says:


  2. Debbie Cude says:

    You should SERIOUSLY consider getting published. You’ve read more books than I’ve SEEN & your insight is spot on. Your words are honest & encouraging. People will be quoting you. Shine on sister mine!!!

  3. Cilla N Jay Cude says:

    I love what you write!

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